I recently finished reading Love & Gelato by Jenna Evans Welch and while I was really excited for this book I ended up being pretty disappointed! I will talk more about why in my review on Wednesday and limit myself to the insta-love trope, that was, unfortunately, part of Love & Gelato, for today’s post!
Surely we have all read books featuring the insta-love trope before and I’m sure we are all more than just tired of it for multiple reasons. One, for me, is that it is incredibly unrealistic. You don’t fall in love with another person in a matter of days. You might see someone and find them really attractive or you might think the person is giving off a great vibe which makes you want to get to know them better. That, I would be 100% on board with! Give me more of this kind of story!
But falling in love with someone in just a couple of days and wanting to spend the rest of your life with them? That doesn’t sound realistic to me, I’m sorry.
Why do authors feel the need to write this kind of story? Especially in Young Adult literature.
I remember being a teen and thinking I was in love with some boy or another after seeing them a few times (most of the time) but that was nothing other than a crush that might have lasted a few weeks. And if authors wrote about people having crushes often (think Molly in Becky Albertalli’s The Upside Of Unrequited) and then getting to know someone over a longer period of time and then falling for them? That I understand! I feel like the same was the case for Emery Lord’s The Names They Gave Us.
Please show readers that falling in love with someone is more than just thinking they are cute and wanting to be with them immediately – if you are interested in being with someone. Getting into relationships and intimate relationships isn’t something everyone wants – and that should be portrayed too.
When I first read Caraval by Stephanie Garber I didn’t realize how insta-lovey the main relationship was until after, when my brain caught up to the fact that this book was set over the span of just five days. In the moment, I was reading and enjoying the relationship for the most part but once I was done I was looking around myself like ‘Wait.’ and thinking back on it now, I probably wouldn’t enjoy the book as much anymore.
How do you guys feel about the insta-love trope? Are you as tired of it as I am? What is your stance on insta-love versus ‘insta-attraction’? Do you think someone can fall in love with someone in a matter of days? Let’s discuss in the comments!